RIEBESEHL FAMILY LAW'S HOME AND FAMILY LIVING: 4/3/11

Hi there,

I was talking to my friend Amy Waterman the other day, and we were talking about marriage. She was saying that the single biggest reason couples break up is due to poor communication. I tended to agree. For those of you who don't know Amy Waterman, she is the author of Save My Marriage Today:

http://www.azdivorcelaw.org/focus_marriagefocus_family.htm

She showed me the course she has put together on marriage counseling and marriage saving strategies and I was very impressed! I had a good look over Save My Marriage Today and I was ecstatic that someone has finally come up with a guide that covers all the fundamental issues of that arise during married life.

So many couples break up over issues that could have been resolved if they had only opened the lines of communication and worked towards a solution. Some couples couldn’t work towards a solution, and some wanted to, but didn’t know how.

Amy's style helps couples, both young and old, repair their relationship problems and re ignite the spark that once existed before it is too late. Its quite normal for a marriage to go through cycles, and arguments will happen from time to time. Its how you deal with those arguments and disagreements that dictates the health of your relationship. Amy shows you the appropriate way to raise issues and deal with them in a way that takes into account the feelings of both parties and delivers an outcome that avoids the stress, pain and emotional trauma of marital failure.

She deals with topics such as:

* Tips on how to rescue your marriage

* How to reintroduce passion

* How to repair your marriage after an affair

* Self-assessment

* Gestures that are more important than words

And much more...........

Many people split from their husbands and wives and go through enormous trauma all because they are unable to deal with a problem that ultimately could have saved them a lot of heartache, as well as money. Its just crazy!

Amy makes it easy for you by identifying things that could jeopardize your marriage and showing you how to avoid them. If you are serious about saving your marriage and making your love endure, you should learn all you can about communication, commitment, patience, and beliefs that will make your relationship stronger.

In addition to this she has included a free email consultation so that customers can discuss their specific problems with her.

I really do believe Amy is onto a good thing here, and she really wants to help. The techniques she reveals are thought provoking and have been proven over and over to help save marriages. I found there was something for everyone in this course, no matter how long you have been married or how strong your union is.

I was very impressed when I finished checking out Save My Marriage Today and have recommended it to everyone who wants more happiness and fulfillment out of their life and marriage.

I would encourage you to look for yourself and do something today to save your marriage before it is too late!

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And take control of your happiness. For better or for worse, Amy and Save My Marriage Today can help your marriage.

It happens to the best of us. Communication is such a fickle thing, and the lines of communication can become blurred every so often, especially when feelings are involved. Even those who think that they are immune to the confusion of conflict can find themselves drawn into a communication breakdown when they least expect it, and chaos ensues.

This happened to me on the weekend, and until to be quite honest, it took me by surprise. Even those of us who are better equipped than many others are not immune. My partner told me something that really hurt my feelings, and I lashed back in defense. It was a silly argument, over something as simple as a misplaced bottle of aftershave. But to me, it represented something much deeper, that had been simmering away for a couple of weeks. I get frustrated at having to search for something when it is not where I expect it to be. Worse still when my partner has shifted it and I don’t know the first place to begin searching.

Aftershave, needles and thread, car keys, a Tupperware container to store my baking soda in, covers for our outdoor chairs, all were examples of instances where I had to turn the house upside-down. A simple answer from my partner when these things were shifted would have saved me a lot of time and frustration. And the answer I got? "You need to open your eyes and organize yourself better"

I was gutted. When I come home from work I exercise the dog and cook dinner so that it is on the table by the time my partner gets home. The house is always spotless and warm, as I’m very conscious of coming home to a tidy environment. I see this as a fundamental part of my role in coming home first, and it takes a lot of my time. To imply that I have the time to "organize yourself better" really hurt.

I don’t expect praise, but I did hope that my efforts were recognized. I got told that "I don’t expect you to cook my dinner every night" was interpreted by me as ingratitude, and hurt me even more.

So where to from here? My partner felt guilty at coming home every night to the perfect household, whereas I felt guilty if it wasn’t perfect. It was never about me trying to make him feel guilty, but it seems it did. And this is where the communication fell down. He misinterpreted my efforts, and I misinterpreted his response.

Communication, communication, communication. I need for my partner to keep me informed of where things move to. I need to be informed. I need to voice my frustration before it gets to boiling point. We both need to talk about our feelings more, and how each of our contributions to our home and our relationship make us feel, and how we interpret each others contributions. It is not a competition, but for many couples it feels like it.

When people feel guilt or stress, it leads them to act funny ways. Often stress and guilt are barriers to communication. The key to overcoming them is to recognize what it is, and have the courage to talk about it. You might be able to do it as a couple, or you might want the help of a friend who can listen to the way you are communicating with each other and offer insights and advice.

We got it sorted out, and kissed and hugged. It wouldn’t hurt so much if I didn’t feel such love at the same time. But it served as a good reminder to me. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in your own emotions that you forget to think of the other person. You also need to entertain the possibility that you are misinterpreting each other. Talking about it is the way to expose the miscommunication and let the healing begin.

A good lesson to learn, even for the experts…

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